What a Sad Week…

The recent deaths of 2 iconic industry leaders is really very sad.

The first Kate Spade I’ve ever seen was the everyday purse of one of my then sorority sisters. I always admired the simplicity and classic look of that purse. Years later, I was able to purchase my very own Kate Spade and it still holds its classic and simple look to this day.

Last year, I heard her podcast and admired the entrepreneurial relationship she had with her husband. She was so happy and in her voice you could never hear the demons she harbored in her heart. That interview brought me hope that loved ones can work well together, and since then I strive to find that kind of support system they had for each other.

Then we get to Anthony Bourdain. I admit, I wasn’t glued to his shows as I should have been, but his work was amazing. He brought life into food. He told people’s stories through food and united cultures in a way that brought on curiosity instead of the division we see in today’s society. His piece on Houston displayed the true essence of our great city. It really is sad to see a human like that go.

Mental illness is no joke. I have my moments of depression and anxiety and I can only imagine how bad it was for them to actually take their own life. This time last year I was in the lowest depths of my life and I fought to get out of it. Can you just imagine how hard it was for them to keep on fighting, until they just eventually gave up? It honestly really saddens me because at the end of the day, there was really nothing anyone could have done. They made their decision and committed to the idea that there was nothing else left for them to do.

You never know what people are going through. We didn’t know Robin Williams had demons he was fighting. The only thing left we can do in this world is to just be kind to one another. YOUR smile might be the reason why that random person at the store made it one more day. Peace of mind can really be hard to come by, I truly hope everyone can find it.

Extreme Happiness

Day 20 of 26

I just realized I miscalculated my number of days I’m here. It’s 26, I’ve been putting 24. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Back to Cebu we go and like PAL fashion, we are delayed 2 hours. Dutuarte needs to start focusing on the efficiency and convenience of these stupid airlines here and start punishing them for ripping people off. Jussssfuckingsayinnnn.

Anyway, Rockets won AFFFFFF and I was actually able to watch the game without going into cardiac arrest or having a seizure.

That is all. 🚀

Now here’s my favorite tweet of the day.

I miss you H-town. ♥️


Day 19 of 24

All the traveling this past weekend is starting to really get to me. I miss my comfy bed and you might think it’s wierd, but my restroom. I miss the warmth of my bed, a normal flushing toilet and hot showers.

Since Friday, I’ve literally slept on 2 different airplanes, 3 different hotels in 3 different cities, 2 different cars, at the airport and a couch at a funeral home. Then on top of that food poisening twice. I’m not complaining, just tired and want to be in one place for more than 3 days. Oh and decent internet. I miss LTE or a strong WiFi signal. I know, I know… #FirstWorldProblems. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Today we drove from Cagwait to San Frans. Dad’s cousin from San Frans leant us a car for our time in Cagwait so BJ drove it back. He’s starting to get the hang of driving out in the Filipino country side. I stayed awake the entire 1hr 45 min drive and it was really nice to see the country like that.

We’ll be back in Cebu tomorrow evening. I can’t wait to do nothing and spend the last week just hanging out with the family.

Rest In Paradise Lola Lourdes

Day 18 of 26

Lola was dearly loved in Cagwait. Her generosity to the small town is greatly appreciated and the people expressed their it through the memorial service they offered her. They were able to get everything planned in such short notice. I don’t have much to say, but thank you. I was given the responsibility of giving the eulogy, so I’ll leave that here.

My name is Patsy Vivares, daughter of boy Vivares and the 3rd grandchild of Lola Lourdes.

On behalf of the Vivares and Pelayo family, we would like to thank all of you people in cagwait, and especially the mayor and her people for helping us get to this point. Everything has happened so fast, so we truly appreciate the speed, efficiancy and the genuine hospitality you all have shown us.

Lola was a very generous person. When in her presence, the first thing she always asked was if you were hungry. I’m starting to realize that she didn’t really know how to cook, but if you didn’t want rice and eggs, she would give you money to buy food. If it wasn’t food that you needed, she always found a way to provide for you with whatever you needed. Lola loved everyone. I don’t think I can remember a time when she was ever really upset with anyone.

Lola’s smile always brightened up the room and she was always laughing. Lola loved to laugh. She enjoyed gathering people over for food, friendship and mah-jong. Sometimes if she won, she would share her winnings with us. Lola was always the life of the party. For big events, she was always dressed in formal Filipino gowns and if given the opportunity, she would entertain everyone with her voice.

My brother and I were fortunate enough to grow up with Lola. When in America, She would take turns at either the Pelayo home or ours. We grew up with Lola either reading us bible stories or telling us ghost stories from her childhood experiences. Every time BJ and I got in trouble growing up, Lola was always there to advocate for us to our parents. She always did her best to keep us out of trouble. Lola also loved the Houston Rockets. She was always glued to the tv if a game was on. So Lol, if it’s possible, can you help them win today against the Warriors?

Also, on behalf of the family, I would like to extend my deep gratitude to Uncle Sammy. While the family lived in America, he was gracious enough to take the time and care for Lola Lourdes. He was there for every hospital visit, every check up and just overall helped Lola with her daily life until she peacefully passed on. Thank you Uncle for providing the care Lola needed when we weren’t around.

Lola Lourdes was a very loving, joyful and classy lady. We will miss you dearly Lol, tell Papa Rudy we said hello.

Later that night, my food poisening got so bad that we had to call a doctor. He gave me 2 IV’s and a cocktail of meds to help the diarrhea, vomiting and stomach cramps. The cramps were killer, they came and went as it pleased. It was pure torture.

More Traveling…

Day 17 of 24

After they took Lola to the airport, we all headed back to the hotel for a quick nap and or shower. We left for the airport at about 1 AM. Anywhere and anytime you were capable of sleeping, you just took the opportunity. Man, so tiring.

As soon as we arrived at Butuan Airport, we got picked up and headed out to San Fransico to meet up with the Rufila clan. We took about 5 cars filled with people on the hour and half drive to Cagwait.

It was unexpected, but apparently Lola was a Chancellor of some sort and the city wanted to honor her and hold a viewing for the people at the City Hall. It was cool to see all these people come out and pay their respects to Lola. Aftwards we went on a short walk to Lola’s site where Lolo Nino is also laid to rest.


We also got to see our beach from a distant.

Celebration of Life

Day 16 of 26

I had a whole post for this day, but it somehow disappeared.

Yesterday felt like a week. When we arrived to Manila, we went straight to the funeral home, suitcases and everything. Mom and I got there around 1:30 or probably closer to 2 AM.

Funerals and viewings are a lot different in the Philippines. Instead of mourning, the life of the deceased is celebrated. We did the same thing when Papa Rudy died. The viewing usually lasts for about a week and every night a family member or a friend stays with the beloved. It might seem wierd and scary, but it’s actually comforting in a wierd way. BJ, Dad, Manong Mike and I stayed with Lola over night along with Lola’s neighbors. We all fell asleep on the job, lol.

In the morning, we picked up our other cousin and people just slowly started showing up at the funeral home. We met so many relatives and friends, a lot I didn’t even know existed. They all stayed, prayed, laughed, ate and told stories about Lola and the past memories from growing up. It was really cool to see so many people happily being in each other’s company.

My Dad never left Lola’s side until they had to take her that evening. They had to get her ready for the trip to Cagwait. It was a somber moment.

The next adventure starts with a flight at 4 in the morning.

Jet Setter Life

Day 15 of 24

I love to travel and see new things, but all this traveling we’ve been doing today is so unexpected and not exactly how I thought it would go. So here’s the deal for today.

✈️ Palawan > Cebu > Manila ✈️

All in one day. Damn.

Thank God we are flying though. BJ and Dad are going from Palawan straight to Manila. Dad’s siblings are waiting on him and Mom and I are going to get our stuff from Cebu and meet them there. Then on Sunday we travel back to Surigao to bury Lola in Cagwait. I’ve only been here for 15 days and I’ve traveled so much already… air, land and sea! Crazy.

I’m really not looking forward to the upcoming week. It will be hard to see my Dad go through this, but he’s a G – he’ll be aaaiigghhttt…

Lola came into his dreams this morning and told him she’s waiting for him. How can you not cry – I sure did.

On another note… the food poisening count went up today. It’s official, 6 out of the 8 of us who traveled to Palawan have gotten sick. Man, what did they feed us?! Haha… geezus. You’re still beautiful though, Palawan! On our way to the airport in P-town, we passed by Baker’s Hill. It’s a cute little tourist attraction with a bakery. None of us really had the stomach to eat anymore on that island.

Tonight, the 4 of us will be in Manila with the rest of the Vivares family.