So as 40 Days Elevate starts to wrap up, I can’t help but to reflect on what I’ve been working on and how much has changed since Day 1.
My intentions for these 40 days was to come out of it “ok.” I’ve been on this non-stop emotional rollercoaster called life that did not seem to end. In the past, I’ve always managed to work my way through things, but this time everything that I tried did not work. Vacations, exercise, eating, and even laughing couldn’t bounce me back.
But here we are…. Day 37 and I actually woke up OK. That anxiety ridden depression of waking up wasn’t there. I actually felt content with my life at that moment and was OK with whatever I have in store for me today.
It’s been a long road, but here’s what I’ve learned.
- BE PATIENT, especially with the people you love. – Everything really has its course. People must experience things in order to get to where they need to be. Just because someone isn’t at your level, it doesn’t mean it’s your responsibility to get them there. Let people be, they will eventually come around. Change your attitude towards their struggles and pray for them so that you can help to elevate them instead of fight with them to change.
- Love yourself. – This was the biggest one for me. In order to be able to love others, you must learn to love yourself. Loving yourself is about taking care of yourself physically and especially mentally. Sacrificing who you are for the happiness of others is not showing love to people, it’s only a way to allow them to abuse you. Love yourself enough that people can reflect that love off of you and onto their lives.
- The way you are treated is a reflection of yourself. – Feeling angry inside? Don’t be surprised that people will be angry with you all day. Being sarcastic? Don’t get butt hurt when people sarcastically answer your simple question. Just like a bouncy ball, our moods can bounce off other people and come right back to us. Keep that in mind the next time you’re in a bad mood.
- Just breathe. – Cliché I know, but deep breathes in stressful situations really does calm your nerves. There’s some sort of magical effect when you take a moment to bring more oxygen to your system. Those few moments of deep breathes will help you to relax and think more clearly before reacting to a stressor.
- This too shall pass. – Eventually the rain does stop. Just because you’re going through hard times, it doesn’t mean it will be forever. The tough situations we are put in is an opportunity for growth. As hard as this shit can get, HOLD ON because it does get better. Feel the feels, but know there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.
Just like me, eventually you’ll be OK too.