“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” ― Jim Rohn
It’s that time of the year again. The time when we all pull out our journals and reflect back on the adventures taken, lessons learned and memories created from the past year. As we reproduce fondly (or cringe) on the moments of the past 360-ish days of yesteryear, we start to think about what we can do different next year. How can I make more money? How can I be happier? What do I need to rid of in my life in order to succeed? How can I fit back into my size 4 jeans? Because we are closing out on another year, we are all of a sudden inspired for changes and motivated about the possible outcomes.
When I was a trainer, I knew I couldn’t change people. I can help them and encourage them to lose weight, but I always knew that in order for them to live and believe in a healthy lifestyle, it has to come from within. YOU have to want to change. YOU have to want to eat better. YOU have to want to fit in those jeans from 2 years ago. I can only guide you and inspire you, but that want, desire and effort has to come from your heart.
Goal setting is fantastic, but the the problem with setting goals and creating New Year’s Resolutions is that they can only last for so long. They only last for as long as we stay motivated. When your motivation and drive starts to wain, because… well LIFE, then we fall back into that vicious circle of “I”ll try again next year.” Then next year comes and instead of vowing to lose 5 lbs., you set yourself up to lose 10, because you gained 5 more. Or instead of enjoying your dream job, you’re new goal is to go on vacation from life because you basically gave up on trying to find your dream job. It’s a constant battle of excitement and disappointment until you either actually hit your goal or you give up.
So why not try something different this year? Instead of committing yourself to a New Year’s Resolution and setting new goals, why not commit to YOURSELF and YOUR personal growth and development? Instead of learning a new hobby or sport, learn about yourself and who you really are. Figuring out your purpose and your why is a new concept I’ve been working on. Amazingly, it has lead me into different paths and ideas that I never thought I would ever explore. I’m still trying to hone in on my “why” but I’m a lot closer to that then I was a few months ago.
For 2018, instead of making a New Year’s Resolution that you’ll probably break by mid January, I invite you to accept who you are now and be curious about everything. Step out of your comfort zone. Do that thing you’ve been wanting to do, but haven’t for the fear of whatever. Be bold in you actions and find self-love.
Goals are a lot easier and more fun to accomplish when our foundation is strong. You are perfect the way you are, have fun figuring out who that person is.